Dare to say NO

It is past time women begin to defend themselves. You can’t always wait for a saviour to come
rescue you. I understand your personality, I understand you are emotional and the moment you
want to talk you start crying, I understand you do not want to offend people.

You must understand that offences will come, some people are opportunist and will use you as long
as you let them do, you can’t satisfy everyone. You need to start building your skill of assertiveness.
You must understand when you are under pressure and can’t bow to ones needs. The ability to say
No is what makes people respect you.

Fight for what you believe in, demand that you are heard, expect to  be respected and chose to be
you. See you on top dear.

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