Love is blinding
They say love is blind but I say
love is blinding. We are blinded to the obvious because we are in a euphoric
state. During my service year I was privileged to be close to a brilliant Corp
member. Ambitious and beautiful, blessed with a good heart and usually would
make everyone laugh. She was in love with a certain guy. This guy apparently
had her around his sleeve and manipulated her in every way.
The said guy is a motor mechanic
who barley finished secondary school, was living in a family house and hardly
made decisions that concerns them if his family isn’t involved. All these
didn’t matter to me because I felt she was old enough in fact older than me and
know what she wants. I respected that fact and didn’t pay close attention to
her relationship until she started relating her fears to me.
This guy wants her to return to Lagos
after service, they would get married, continue living in family house and she
becomes a trader. He said he wants her to be selling tomatoes and pepper in
front of the house. That he would create a table for her so that she can
properly display her goods. I was
furious. I asked her if he really said that to her. She said it has always been
his plan back when she was in the university.
She has always been cool with it until she graduated and realized she
wanted more out of life than be a petty trader.
I started explaining to her how
she was set to destroy her life. I told her there was nothing wrong with
marrying the guy if she feels so strongly in love with him but everything was
wrong with the fact that the guy doesn’t trust her and calls her a prostitute.
Everything was wrong with the fact that the guy doesn’t want her to do masters
or gain more knowledge, everything was wrong with the fact that the guy doesn’t
like her new friends because she has started to say she wants a washing
machine.
I asked her what she would do if
she gets a bank job; she said the guy won’t allow her take the job because he
feels she would return home late. So I
asked what she really wanted to be and she said she wants to work in a media
house.
I began to explain to her that
media in my opinion is more tasking than bank job. I had my IT in a media house
but I don’t know what it entails in a bank though. I told her she would meet
people and her view about life would change. I asked her if the guy can handle
it. I told her life the corporate world deserve two matured people who
understand it for them to be able to remain husband and wife. I sincerely don’t
know how my friend wants to cope with this kind of guy.
It is this love is blind mantra
that makes people believe they can be in an abusive relationship. If not how do you explain a husband beating
his wife and the wife keeps saying she loves him. Haaaa, domestic violence
should not be condoned on any ground. It starts with issues like this in a
relationship and when it graduates to marriage you can’t put the folds
together. Signs of a terrible marriage are everywhere. Yes love is a beautiful
thing but I beg your pardon, Love isn’t foolish. #LoveisBlinding
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