Life and Love Happens.
I was 18 years when I got admitted into the University. It felt good
to be admitted into the university immediately after secondary school
because I had worked hard to pass my WEAC and NECO examinations. My
parents were happy my name was on the merit list as they told their
friends how I worked night and day to be admitted into the university.
I was determined to graduate from the university with good grades
as my parents had promised that I will further my academics overseas
and I looked forward to that day. Excelling in my academics came with
much ease as I had friends with like minds. My friends were not from
this world as they were mischievous girls who were too proud to notice
they made more enemies than friends.
I liked the fact that my friends were fine in all sense as they gradually
created a niche for themselves. My friends had the best of guys on campus
ask them out, but for me relationship was not on my mind as I viewed
it as a distraction. That not withstanding, I had always admired tall, dark guys with intelligent
prowess. Although my friend’s elder brother possessed all these qualities, he never came to mind because
he was more of a big brother and protected us like a mother hen would
do to her chicks.
In my second year at the university, I picked a course that had a
lot of calculations and had to seek help from my friend’s brother.
He was willing to help me understand every sum, from that moment we
always spent time together and he paid more attention to me than ever.
At this point, he was in his final year at the university. My friend
would always ask me if I liked her brother but in my usual response to her, I will say “who wouldn’t love a guy like your brother?”
we would laugh over it but then I had fallen head over heels with him.
My friend’s brother invited me for his final year dinner, towards
the end of the party he took me out of the hall, we had a long walk
and talk where he confessed his love for me and told me he would like to spend
the rest of his life with me. It was a defining moment never to be forgotten
in my life as I in return told him how I love him and would marry him
too.
Two years after that dinner night he proposed to me, we got married.
Our home has been all we desired it to be but we were in constant prayers
for children. My husband one day returned from work and told me he was
taking a second wife. I was heartbroken, even if he had the right to
marry more wives I felt betrayed and disappointed. I questioned my existence
as a woman and why I had child bearing problem after been married
as a virgin.
I pleaded with my husband to give me time that we would have our desired
kids but my husband was already preoccupied with marriage preparations
with the soon to be bride. I had only one person to turn to – The
Almighty. I prayed always that the new bride give my husband the kids
he desire and peace should reign in our home.
After the wedding, hubby never came to my room as the new bride took
control of the affairs of the home. I decided to return to school to
keep my mind occupied from family issues, I also felt returning to school
will bring me in contact with new friends while the quest to be the
best in class will have me visit the library often too. I started feeling
young again as I made new friends, I realised how much I have missed
while been at home. Going back to school was the best decision I have made in years.
Two years after my post graduate degree I applied for a doctorate.
One night hubby visited my room after several months of neglect, I wanted
to walk him out but his voice kept me still. He came to my study table
and browsed through my books, then he said “you are still as intelligent
as ever, I missed those days of long talk and laugh”. That night was
the shortest of all night as we made love like never before. That same
night I knew I could never love any other man than him. I remembered
my vows to him and I promise to remain all that I said to him that wedding
day.
Three years after hubby married his second wife; our home still lacked
cries and chuckles of children. Second wife started complaining of how
hubby doesn’t come to her room and speak less to her. I wanted to
share in her pain as I understood what neglect was but I had to remind
myself that second wife’s fury is one no one can quench so I stayed
on my lane.
Five months after second wife complained about hubby’s distance
from her he announced his wedding to wife number three (wife three). Second wife cried her
life out; she became sick and was admitted in the hospital. She promised
to commit suicide if wife three was married into the family, she promised
to make the home hell for everyone. Husband married wife three and because
wife number two (wife two) was always quarrelling with hubby he never visited her room.
Wife three was the reigning queen in the king’s palace as she constantly
taunt wife two and promised wife two she would give the family an heir
after nine months.
Wife three is beauty in every sense. Let me say she is classic as
I admire the way she talks and her youthful nature made me hopeful for
my hubby. Wife three always talked about kids and new inventions of
machines to help make the home easy to clean. Wife three never believed
in submission and would always voice her opinion on any issue. Wife
three amaze me in to a point of admiration. She is always online and
trendy. She would tell me how patient I am and how she can never tolerate
nonsense. I will smile and tell her patience is virtue and those who
are patient do not eat spoilt food.
Third wife would spend nights in my room whenever hubby travels and
we would laugh about everything. Third wife told me she wanted to further
her academics but wanted to have her post graduate studies overseas.
I told her she could talk to hubby about it and seek his permission.
Third wife told me hubby doesn’t have a choice but to send her to
school overseas.
After a year and six months of third wife into our home she travelled
to the United States for her post graduate studies. Hubby would call
her all night and sometimes hubby would come to my room and tell me
how he missed third wife. Sometime third wife would scream at hubby
for calling often, she would tell hubby he is behaving like a boy and
hubby would plead with her to take care of herself.
Second wife would make gest of hubby and how he is impotent. The first
night second wife made that statement hubby slapped her and she vowed
to divorce him because she wants to have children of her own. Third
wife sent a letter which was delivered by a courier company, it was
a divorced letter. Hubby cried that night in my room, I cried with him
because our world was tearing apart and I had no solution to it.
I called third wife and asked her what the problem was and she said
“Uwargida, you know I love kids and I really want to be a mother,
gaskiya I am pregnant for the man I met here and I want to spend the
rest of my life with him.” And I screamed “Subhanallah!”
When second wife got wind of the news she filed for
divorce too. She left our home and got married a month after the divorce
saga, not up to a year into her new home she put to bed. Third wife
gave birth to twins; a boy and a girl. I am in contact with these women who
once shared a home with me and they are doing well in every way you
can think of.
Today I celebrate my 30th anniversary with
my husband. We discovered hubby had fertility problem which could not
be medically rectified. Hubby told me to file for divorce if I wanted
kids because he won’t be able to fulfil my dreams of being a mother.
I was broken, I couldn’t leave my husband. I am bound to him by marriage
and our soul is entwined. I love my husband beyond having kids and can never
share another bed to any man other than my husband.
We never adopted children but my sisters kids are mine. I love them
a lot, my house is always filled with nephews and nieces. This is the path
I chose and I have never regretted it. This is my story, this is my life and
my husband I love dearly.
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