Chattels for Possession

At age forty, I think a man should be thinking of making impact in his generation rather than deceiving innocent young girls and luring them to bed with the intention of getting married and giving them money. To start with, the said guy is not financially stable and does not have a steady income.
I invited a girl of 19 years to my home; my intention was to ask her why she thinks getting married should be a priority now? I wanted her to see her academics as an integral part which will lead to a turning point in her life.
She said “haa, aunty I want to go to school, I don’t want to marry him and I don’t even love him. He told my parents he would buy me a car, get a house help for me and sponsor me to school. He said why am I shouting school when there are lot of married women with certificates yet they do not have jobs. He said this is a life time opportunity he is presenting to me and I shouldn’t miss it.”
So I asked her again what do you want? She said “Aunty, I want to further my studies.” This is all I wanted to hear from her before I visit her parents about the issue.
It was later discovered that the said guy has been sleeping around with other young girls all in the name of marriage. This is where I got furious.
Marriage is good. It is the bedrock on which the society is form. Is there something wrong with early marriage? It depends.
In a society where women are seen as chattels and priced possessions how is early marriage in her favour? This can only be in her favour if she is ‘blessed’ with a good man who looks out for her and wants her to grow. A man who sees education as a guiding light, a man who knows that educating a woman is saving a generation from doom and chaos. This for me is the only ground that an early marriage can benefit a girl.
Yes there are women who are married and educated yet they do not have jobs but do you know the difference between these women and those who are married and uneducated? Time and opportunity. Time will always birth opportunity, those with certificates will be qualified to take positions and those without certificates to present will wallow in penury.
What is the rush to get married? People in marriage are looking for ways to be free, to be single again yet ‘Singles’ are in a hurry to be tagged MRS.
Married to a wrong partner will never bring respect like we think. The woman will be miserable all her life; she will never be empowered because there lays her freedom. At 19years there is a lot to be achieved, a 40 year old man is not the best you can have now there are many good men still to come your way.
Mothers please guide your children on the right path so their lives won’t be ruined before your presence. Marriage is a beautiful thing but the beauty is seen when entered with the right mind set.