Love me or I die



My neighbour returned from school earlier today and she couldn’t be quiet. She kept saying Mummy Semilore hmmm, haaaa. Even I too joined in the hmm haa when she finished her gist.

Her school mates in the university, male 300level and female 200level are cohabiting. The boyfriend beats the girlfriend and girlfriend believes they are meant to be. Concerned girls grouped themselves and had a chat with girlfriend to leave boyfriend alone, that he doesn’t love her and his constant beating may lead to her death but girlfriend has refused to listen.

The disturbing part of the story is that girlfriend went ahead to tell other girls that those concerned group are jealous and are not happy for her.  Boyfriend and girlfriend won best couple on campus previous year and girlfriend wants it to remain so, she wants that title this year again even under severe beating. I think this girl’s thinking is under attack. This is the only thing I can say.

I don’t know the reason why a 200level thinks the best relationship she can be in is one that she is been beaten. I don’t know her family background and why she should liken domestic violence to love. How can one be in a relationship and they can’t air their view? Why should one party be the one to be scared of losing the other? Why should one party think oppression by assault and battery gives him or her an edge over the other? Why should one party be doing so much to keep the relationship when the other party is nonchalant. This doesn’t add up…..

I feel so sorry for this girlfriend and I really wish I can reach out to her. In fact I really wish I know her parents not to shame her but to help her. I think something is missing. So I asked my neighbour if the school security is aware of the situation but she said she isn’t sure. I feel exhausted.

To the boyfriend who thinks life starts and ends with him, you are just starting. I don’t think the guy needs a preaching on what is morally right or correct but let’s watch how karma plays out. You can never eat your cake and have it you know.  I am reminded of a man who abandoned his wife and child at the hospital with no care and gave a silly excuse that he wanted space. Trust this part of the world nau, the girl went back to her parents’ house and the man is meant to come and beg and bring some offerings according to the culture. However, it must have started like this, there was a trace of this character while they were dating that was ignored.

How do you accept your partner beating you and all you want is the prestige that comes with a relationship or marriage? I think we are in a sick world. 

RELATIONSHIP it means two relations in a ship. Two people conversing, communicating, relating as the ship sails. Where this is lacking there is going to be a wreck, a capsize, a collision a sink….kindly put all the synonyms. I don’t get it, I don’t know why we overlook the signs when they steer at us. Girls, Women please come off this and get a grip on yourself. Someone out there wants you the way you are, sincerely. If you don’t get it now I don’t know when. #Saynotodomesticviolence 

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