TwinkleThrive

So I was born into an extended family. My Dad’s siblings were 9 while my Mom’s siblings are 5. This clearly gives a picture of many cousins and relatives here and there. There was always one reason or the other to celebrate in my family. My Mom’s family being Yorubas always had interesting gathering that I looked forward to. This practically informed me so much that, loving people came with so much ease.  For a very long time, my friends were my cousins. So I would fantasize about having a large family. The only reason I felt I could have a large family of mine was to give birth to 10 children. I guess I wanted to go the way of my paternal grandmother. I got into a serious relationship and the guy asked, “How many children do you want?” I screamed “10 children.” I went ahead to explain how our kids would run round the house and how we would enjoy every moment because not everyone is blessed to have a happy home. This guy listened without interrupting. When I was done with my h...

Opinion. Feminists are better lovers. This is true because they understand respect and space. That you are a feminist does not expel the place of loving a man. Better still, they are unapologetic about the way they feel for their partner. That kind mad crazy kinda of love. Submission: you can't be asking for submission when you are stupid. If you want a feminist to be submissive to you then you must be ahead of her in knowledge. You choice or decision must be top notch. Your financial knowledge on savings and income must be great. That a feminist question your decision or seek clarity on issues doesn't make her a rude or arrogant person. Questioning a way of life or seeking equity and equality means a feminist is human as the man. So people say feminists are stubborn but I ask, "don't we all need a measure of stubbornness? We all cry assertiveness. You can't have this skill if you ain't stubborn. I bet no child of mine would always take yes and yes for an...

These pictures captured my thought.  When I see children like this,  I sincerely  thank God for where I am.  Not because I am better but because I am privileged.  Sometimes,  I try to make mental calculation of the gain they make by selling gala,  pure water,  biscuits,  sweets and hand towels under the sun.  The truth is,  whatever profit they make is minimal and cannot meet their daily demands. The state- our system is responsible for these children and young adult.  These are kids whose childhood was snatched from them. They have been forced to become care givers at an early age yet the need for survival  push them to conquer. How cruel can we be? Two days ago, I wanted taking akara and bread.  So I went to buy.  The mama sells koko and close to her fries were tables and benches where you can sit and eat.  Beside those eating akara and drinking  koko  are group of small almajirins  waitin...

So I usually say the measure of what you give is what you receive. Okay,  let me add to it. Some people actually receive more than what they give. So my Friend Maliat Musa just added, "some people don't even get half of what they give". Onotu Andah  viewed that "Sometimes we receive without knowing that we have received something great in return just because it doesn't come in the way and form we are expect it. Thing is we always expect something in a way and God may be blessing us in other ways that we take for granted." You can give all and receive nothing in return. You can decide not to give and be blessed with all you desire. You could give half way and you are equally met half way. These are just general life value. These rules are not cast in stone, it is just life playing out.

I loved to that point That point that my soul was lost in yours Not because I hated me But because I could align my soul to yours Again and again I saw the signs The spirit of love makes me drunk Under whose influence I committed my soul I was blind to the fact that spontaneously The passion was long dead To you I would have given my soul To give my soul  was to die Then the influence of that love Weaned off I found myself in me I needed time I don't know how much time I need Yet if love ever finds me again I may not give my soul Maybe I actually would.

At a certain point in our lives we have felt low. We must have said to ourselves “I can’t do this,” “I am not sure I am the right candidate for this job,” “This Girl is more beautiful than I,” “This guy is got a better opportunity than I”. The list is so enormous that we focus on belittling ourselves rather than working on our strength. We are humans and sometimes, when the weight of life comes on us these runs through our mind. I tell you the truth, even the finest and greatest of them is passed through this stage. In their celebrated phase, they are still not content and secretly, sometimes feel inferior. Nobody is got it all, people are dealing with issues bigger than themselves. If you hear Mr. A's story you would be surprise at what he is been through and if Mr. B narrates his situation you would thank God yours is not as bad. We all adorned ourselves with beautiful clothings to cover what we are facing. In all of these, I h...

She is a time bomb waiting to explode She knows her value She won't bulge You can take her to the cleaners She was washed before you decided to wash her She isn't arrogant You are just unhappy because she beats your imagination You can't unravel her She keeps her cat close Adore her or lick her feet Hate or shame Victory or vanquish Joy exceeding happiness Either way she remains THE QUEEN!

Tomi thinking loud.... I don't want to go late to work again.  There is something about this Monday morning that she feels crazy about.  She looks into the mirror and sees a 30year old beautiful mother.  Her shape still intact even after one and she is glad her job is paying her well. While combing her hair she remembers her perfume and thought to herself 'I wish my hubby finds me beautiful and 'choppable' tonight.' Dayo comes out of the bath room and stares at his wife.  So he says to her 'you think you are beautiful? I wonder how your boss copes at work.  You good for nothing woman.  You think your job is all that matters while you sleep around'. Tomi was not sure of her response as tears rolls down her eyes.  Adorable Tomi is in this assault for two years.  Her hubby keeps insulting her.  His words is affecting her at work.  From being proactive to inconsistent and rude.  Some of her colleagues can notice her glow varnish. Tom...

Why do we think we must do peoples bidding? You cannot satisfy everyone. You do it right they talk,  you do it wrong they talk so why do you think you must have their approval? Nobody can tell your story like you do so don't allow anyone intimidate you to silence.  Moreover,  the dead are constantly talked about and even lied on. Either way,  people would talk. Once I attended a wedding full of glamour,  there was so much to eat and drink yet I heard people complaining about the wedding. What can one ever do that it won't be talked about sef? My dear,  do that which you have always desired to do.  Take that risk,  that path to success is waiting for only your foot print to thread it. I am talking to you,  you have got all it takes to succeed. I tell you the truth,  if you are determined even the universe won't stop you rather they would come as a force to help you out. Start it today,  make an effort to forgive,  ...

So I saw a post where someone said that obsanjo’s letter was exaggerated. I don’t know what the writer of that post meant by exaggeration because if it is bothering on immense hunger-poverty then that letter is not exaggerated. Obsanjo said “The lice of poor performance in government- poverty, insecurity, poor economic management, nepotism, gross dereliction of duty, condonation of misdeed- if not outright encouragement of it, lack of progress and hope for the future, lack of national cohesion and poor management of internal political dynamics and widening inequality- are very much with us today. With such lice of general and specific poor performance and crying poverty with us, our fingers will not be dry of ‘blood’. As Nigerians, what is exaggerated about all he has said? Why do we continue to allow sentiments play with core human values of life and dignity? Is the former President, Olusegun Obsanjo a saint? No he is not. There were cases of corruption during his tenure which ha...

New Man: there is a friend that sticks better than a brother.  Trust me,  I am that friend.  I want to be to you all they have never been to you.  Please give me a chance. Young Lady: I have been bruised and I don't know what trust is anymore. New Man: even if you don't know, why don't you make up your mind to enjoy life.... Look.. I want you to look me in the eyes... You need a vacation and that's all I'm offering.  I will be with you and make you reel with laughter. I want you too see this City. Young Lady: Hmmm,  this sounds inviting.  OK,  I will go with you because I want to see the world and tap where have been left untapped. You will let me be, let me be free,  discover me and gradually, I will come around. New Man: Oyeah,  that's My Girl!  I love what I see in your eyes....Life.  life is all I see,  it's returning to you.  I want you to discover you while I wait for you to discover me. Young Lad...

I was 18 years when I got admitted into the University. It felt good to be admitted into the university immediately after secondary school because I had worked hard to pass my WEAC and NECO examinations. My parents were happy my name was on the merit list as they told their friends how I worked night and day to be admitted into the university. I was determined to graduate from the university with good grades as my parents had promised that I will further my academics overseas and I looked forward to that day. Excelling in my academics came with much ease as I had friends with like minds. My friends were not from this world as they were mischievous girls who were too proud to notice they made more enemies than friends.  I liked the fact that my friends were fine in all sense as they gradually created a niche for themselves. My friends had the best of guys on campus ask them out, but for me relationship was not on my mind as I viewed it as a distraction. That n...

I went to work one morning, amidst pressure and everyone trying to meet up with deadline, my colleagues still find a way to laugh and throw banters. At every point someone tries to break the silence of everyone straight faced to a laptop, the person comes up with a story of juju. Having had a deep reflection I made this quote and posted on facebook. “an average Nigerian is traditional in mind. Sadly education is not a guarantee to their liberation.” A colleague of mine saw it and asked which one be this one again? So we spoke about the post, about our conversation and I made jest of how they carry juju in mind amidst academic enlightenment. What I realised was that I tried to exempt myself from that post, I tried to look at myself as liberal but the truth is, I am what my post said. During my undergraduate days, in the bid to make extra money and relief my parents of having to spend so much on me, I was involve in selling perfume, eggs and making deliveries. While adver...

So I went to pay a condolence visit to a friend who lost her Dad. It happened to be the three days prayers for the dead and there were so many people present. I couldn’t believe my eyes, the governor of the state, ministers of top ministries and agencies, ambassadors both present and former.  I know my friend’s family to be an average Nigerian when it comes to wealth. Her family do not have a large bank account like she makes me believe because her father was a pious and gentle man. He was a content person filled with wisdom; he believed in the ways of the Prophet and sent many almajiri children to school. Politicians would usually seek his consent and request his blessings. These politicians never come to his house empty. While they present gifts in kind and cash to him, he rejects most not without telling the politician how ill he has treated his people and disappointed the Almighty who gave him the opportunity to be there. My friend always complained of how her fat...

Someone said if you have moved on then you should be in a relationship. I find this faulty, moving on does not mean you must be in a relationship. If you are not comfortable with having a partner then do not be cajoled to be in one. One thing I have learnt over the years is to be assertive. You can not afford to join the "pepper then gang" because you want to prove a point. You do not have to be in a relationship to be happy or feel whole. Look at for the little things that completes you before deciding to be in ones life. Some people would never respect your person until you can truly define who you are. Do not bow to pressure, At the end everyone will lay blames on you, even when they supported your wrong decision. Be patient the world would soon accept the concept of you. Stay true to yourself, be the pilot of your life.